Allyson Graham, marriage counselor and lover of love, lived a life of romance few could imagine. Until her husband's secret addiction stared at her from the computer screen. Will she be able to forgive the man who lied to her all of those precious years?
Follow her painful story alongside the heartbreaking story of Taylor Adams, a young girl searching for her worth in the world. As Allyson struggles to forgive her husband for lying about his addiction, Taylor naively falls into the same self-destructive industry and discovers that the attention and fun is nothing like she thought it would be.
Ashley, why did you decide to write Exposed?
I wanted to show that love overcomes all things. George and I went through a story similar to Ally and Jessie's story. So I've lived it, although their story is a different. I actually have more in common with Taylor than Ally, because of her desire for earthly recognition and her quest for worth and acceptance. But mostly, I wrote Exposed because it just came out of my heart and spilled onto the page. So much of my heart is in this book.
Phew. Well. I get a bunch of emails from hurting women. Since I stay at home with my kids and work from home I don't have much time to get out there and be on the streets loving drug dealers, so I consider this my ministry right now. Loving women and men who are hurting because of porn. Some weeks I get tons of emails, others I get one, but a week doesn't pass where a woman doesn't email me. Porn is just that big. That's why I started the blog www.morethandesire.com, to write articles that help others heal and love again.
Tell me more about your blog.
More than Desire is a blog mostly for women healing from their husband's porn addiction. I talk a lot about the heart of a woman. Basically, I wrote this blog because when I was healing I couldn't find anything that helped, really helped, me heal. I wanted to make something that I would have wanted myself. So that's what More than Desire is. What I would have loved to have had when I was healing.
Share a bit of how you and your husband came to the point of being so transparent about pornography. Was there ever a point where either of you felt like you wanted to hide your pasts from people?
Well, we're both naturally transparent about everything. All of our flaws, our weaknesses, our strengths -- they are sprawled out for the world to see. We don't like to hide. Hiding is so artificial. And being open about our flaws glorifies God. He is most glorified in our weaknesses. So ... how could we not be open about it? I think the only time George ever wanted to hide his past from people was when he was hiding porn from me. Other than that ... he has been very open and I've never wanted to hide this. How can anything be lit with the love of Christ if we're trying to hide it in a dark corner?
Last of all, what can we do to help women who are trapped in the sex industry or men who are addicted to the product?
Buy Exposed, first of all. :) Exposed proceeds will help The Pink Cross organization (and Covenant Eyes and XXXChurch). Pink Cross is led by Shelley Lubben, an ex-porn star who loves people out of porn. Even without buying Exposed, Pink Cross is a great ministry to support. Also, in all Exposed books we are including a card at the end of the book and an envelope to mail it back to us. This is an opportunity for readers to write a letter to a porn star. We will be creating a Web site called "Love Letters for Porn Stars" (coming soon www.loveletterstopornstars.com) and posting all of these letters on there. Also, we're going to put the cards in a pretty silver envelope and put them in a gift bag with other nice gifts. My friend Julie and I will be going to porn conventions to hand the letters/gift bags to girls in the industry. So ... those are a few ways! Prayer. Prayer is a big way you can help girls in the industry. And love. No judgment. Just love. Pure love. Seeing them through God's eyes, instead of objects.